But I was determined to get over this one without talking to him. Until I ran into him at a day-long meditation seminar in October.

There were about 200 people there, so I don’t think he noticed me until I walked up to him at the end of the day, and said I was ready to be friends.

Apparently he noticed me, too, and we ended up talking for hours, very quickly becoming friends ourselves. Both of us were single, but I was moving to New York in just under a month so we just platonically enjoyed that short time we had together.

Then I moved to New York City, which could have been the end of the story, but we stayed in touch for two years via email.

“It’s almost impossible to convey with complete certainty to another person that you don’t want something romantic,” says Rachel Mc Laren, Ph.

D., assistant professor of interpersonal communication at the University of Iowa.

I’m not pining for any of them; rather, I want them to be happy, just as I’m sure they wish the same for me.

How do you decide whether to keep an ex — or merely someone you dated — in your life after the spark has gone out? If you have kids together, you might be co-parenting or at least communicating.

“There’s always going to be that question mark and possibility that one of you will change your mind.” (Hear from real women on whether Men Can Really Be "Just Friends" with Women.)The best you can do is to be as clear from the start that you’re looking for a platonic relationship and avoid delivering mixed signals—which is where these five steps come in.

Drop the “Boyfriend” Early“If you have a boyfriend or significant other, make sure it’s included in the conversation earlier rather than later,” advises Rachel De Alto, relationship coach and author of Stick to Group Hangs If you aren’t involved with someone, spending time alone is just asking for trouble.

By being tossed into togetherness, you might just find yourselves fancying the idea of pairing off.