No matter what the cause or the circumstances, a relationship ended. Maybe you really just a want a companion to travel or have dinner with or go dancing or just hang out — with benefits or not?Even if you were the one who walked, it is very emotional. Give yourself space for your emotions to come back to normal. Make sure that you have given yourself the time to mourn and to heal.2. What exactly are you getting back into the dating pool to do? The clearer you are on what you want, the easier it is for you to spot it when it arrives.

resize=480:*" /After a breakup, you don't owe your ex anything and you certainly don't have to get back together.

And that's a great foundation from which to build a new relationship.

Are you looking for someone who is content to date with no clear end in mind? It is also much easier to know when the person standing in front of you is not on the same page.3. Do things to make yourself feel good about the way you look — for you, not for anyone else.

If it makes you feel good then have your hair done and your mani-pedi. You being you, at ease with yourself and the way you look and enjoying life, makes you more attractive.4. As you are getting back out there into the dating world remember to keep an open mind.

This sounds a trifle mean, but if you can't seem to get excited about the new fish you've plucked from the sea, get excited about the places you'll go!

Most likely, a lot has changed since you last dated.All sorts of things have opened up - theatres, restaurants,bars and even bike lanes. In the immortal words of Dr Seuss, 'oh the places you'll go... Cleaning out is cathartic, even when you havent had a breakup!Removing any ex-iconography from your home is the first step to moving on. But after the mandatory mourning comes to a close, the only way to truly move on is to meet new people . And yes, the first thing you probably want to do is curl up into a ball, watch reruns of Friends, and have Seamless send you dinners while Taskrabbit picks up new boxes of Kleenex...My clients and readers are male and female, of all ages and backgrounds and come from relationships that are of many different lengths.