Divorced and dating tips
Depending on how long you were in a committed partnership, it may be years since you were last single.
You are now older, have a lot more responsibilities than you did in your early 20s, and may have children.
Next, the setting and length of an introduction is crucial to success.
Your kids may feel a mixed bag of emotions about you dating and even harbor fantasies that you will reconcile with your ex-spouse.
This might make it a challenge for them to accept someone you are dating into their lives.
One of the common themes that I encounter is that men want the companionship of someone else, but are scared of the process of dating.
It often feels daunting, there is uncertainty about how/where to start, and then add to it how damaged he may feel from being divorced, many men avoid the process all together.
Many dads take a long time to recover before they are ready to date again; and some are ready within a few weeks or months.
But when you are ready to start dating and developing relationships again, the dating scene for a divorced dad is loaded with pitfalls.
Recently a client said to me “I’ve been out of the game for 25 years, all of my friends are married, I feel like a loser since my wife left me, and you expect me to ask someone out.” Well, not exactly, there are some steps that one can take to make the process easier: 1) Develop your divorce story.
By the time most men divorce they have felt beaten up by their spouse, their kids, and the court process. Their views on love and relationships may be shattered.
In his guest post, Licensed family and marital therapist, Jason Price offers advice to help make dating after divorce a little bit easier for men.
Dating After Divorce by Jason Price, LFMT In my therapy practice I work with a lot of divorcing men who are trying to adjust to life after their divorce.
It wasn’t long before I decided that I wanted to get back into the dating pool, even though I knew it was likely to feel weird and uncomfortable to begin with. Be truthful – Sorry if this is a tough one for those in midlife who appreciate that age is a big thing.