Once you meet a divorced dad’s kids, pay attention to their behavior. Some kids will be slow to warm up to you, and even the sweetest kids have bad days and can be bratty or cranky at times, but beware of children who disrespect you or their father, or who show consistent behavioral problems. They will have a lot more to deal with, and so will you. The divorced dad doesn’t have to get along with his ex all the time, but if their relationship is rocky or she is a mean and a difficult person, this can create strain on your relationship.

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If you ever meet a divorced guy you like, and he has kids (like I do), here are some things to consider: 1.

The number of kids he has will affect your relationship BIG TIME. They're more independent, which means the dad has more time to spend with you. Most of his time is devoted to his kids, and you must respect that.

It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world! You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. Plus, if you’ve gone through divorce or another crisis that landed you as a single parent, you are no doubt concerned about giving your kids extra care and sense of security. But it is even trickier if one or both of the parents put the kids before their partner.

You also want women to know you’re a devoted dad (it’s no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids! It’s no surprise that so many blended families I know struggle with adjusting all parties to a home where everyone is suddenly expected to revolve around the new relationship. One dad I went out with nearly boasted when telling me about a four-month relationship that went sour because his girlfriend did not understand why he’d abruptly leave in the middle of dinner because his tween son would call, upset about some matter with his hockey coach.

However, don’t be too quick to toss out that cute dad’s phone number.

Each divorced dad is different, and you may find one you really connect with.

Get your relationship off to a good start by considering these common scenarios. Is it OK to meet him now or should I wait until I have a better feel for the potential of this relationship before making introductions? Most experts agree that you should wait until your relationship shows signs of becoming serious before making introductions.

Children (especially young children) quickly can become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends.

I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.