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This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends.

We should date for fun, friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security.

I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.

I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.

I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.

I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it. In this article I am going to call it “dating” and define it as “the process of finding a spouse.” I do not claim to be an expert: I realize that many varying opinions about dating float around Christian circles jumping over each other, getting mixed together, and consuming some people. You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process.So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.