Travis and I have been married for eight months this February.I think we are definitely still in the newlywed stage.

I don't agree with all of Cloud's advice, and his tone can be a bit flippant, but he acknowledges the seldom-addressed dating drought in Christian circles.

He also debunks many popular myths, such as "dating around is unchristian" and "God will definitely bring the right one to you." Copyright © 2011 Christianity Today.

Let’s start with the books we read before we were married.

Travis and I read two books together before we got engaged and both opened up great discussion between us.

To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.

We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).

But no matter how happy or healthy our marriage is, I believe there is room for growth and improvement.

Why not work on our relationship now while it’s great rather than wait until we have problems?

The christian divorce facts for a bad marriage are: God is for divorce when needed, remarriage is right, a bad or wrong marriage is good to get out of, and God supports you even though His church may not!

I know we have covered a lot of ground, but let me share some final things with you in closing.

I believe it’s important to work on your relationship from the very beginning to prevent future problems. Today, I’m sharing with you some great books to help you grow as a couple — whether dating or married.