In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.

Chances are, you don’t need to be anybody else to attract a great girl. But you may very well need to be the best version of yourself to attract a woman. If you are a great snowboarder, she’ll sense your confidence as you talk about it.

Dress nice, bathe, smell good, ask lots of questions, smile, laugh, exhibit a little knowledge about something interesting, and most importantly listen to her. Actor George Hamilton once wrote that when he goes to a new town he finds the nicest restaurant and pays a visit in the afternoon. He gives them his credit card and says, “Please take an imprint of this.

by Krynnster Chapter 1 - The Ad Misconception #1: "the most important thing in getting women on the 'net is an amazingly original, incredibly well written personal ad." Why is this a misconception?

For starters, we all know that in the real world women will usually not pick up guys, so it is fair to assume that this mentality extends to the virtual world as well.

There are red flags that are annoying, and red flags that are Molotov cocktails waiting to burn your life down. A beautiful and kind woman with an annoying laugh may be tough on a long car ride, but at least she thinks you’re funny. If you’re a sports junkie who has season tickets to the Celtics, do you want a woman who hates basketball and wants you home every night? Don't make the classic mistake of thinking, "She's beautiful. Dating is one of those things that we’re supposed to be good at with no practice and no detailed feedback. The easiest way to improve your dating skills is to take a female friend to lunch and talk her through your last date -- your clothes, your venue choice, your conversation, your end of date approach.

Issues involving honesty, money, substances, entitlement, and kindness should have you running for the door. Too many times men end up with women who don’t like the life they cherish. If she lets you lean in or even leans into you, things are going quite well. I know that it can take women two or three dates to feel chemistry. You should really want to kiss her, and if you don’t, it’s not a crime. You know that thing about red flags that can burn your life down. She will have opinions on all these things, and next time you’ll be better for it.

This is not some lady who browsed your ad and replied out of boredom, this is a lady that wants to get to know you.

Okay, so I'm not trying to tell you that your ad is totally unimportant, but it's definitely not the most important thing.

By the time a British man would have taken you out for dinner, you could have been on a minibreak with your French boyfriend, and met his mother.

That muddy period when you’re not sure how serious he is will be rapidly cleared up after you’ve been dating a French man for a week, by which time he’ll have begun referring to you as his girlfriend.

She might believe you and then feel bad when you don’t.